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Forget the celebrities! There are so many provocative, fascinating, Real Life women running around who can inspire us. That’s why I’ve decided, every once in a while on my blog, I’m going to recognize one these fine individuals. For my very first Kick-Ass Woman Blog, I’d like to introduce you to a feisty, out-spoken, break-the-mold and be your-best-self kind of a broad – Alena.

I’ve never met Alena in person. She is a friend of a friend on Facebook. That said, I always get a kick out of her posts. Last week, I got sucked into an online conversation about what women look for in men, and what men look for in women.

The whole subject of dad bod’s came up and a couple of the woman agreed that’s what they like best.

Have you heard about this, women preferring men with middle-of-the road bodies? This got me all irritated and riled up. How sad it is for us poor women, we never hear about men wanting mom bods. WE don’t get full admiration from men or women unless we are the “ideal.”

That’s when Alena piped in with her comments about herself:

I’m a gray haired- 40 yr old, size 14…… I also have smaller tah-tahs and short hair- so by beauty standards everything I “am” is a “no”…. Guess what? Idgaf what the standard is. I’m doing me– and I’m happy as can be- and those who like my kind of “me” let me know. And I don’t hate on my beautiful sisters- skinny or big boobed- long hair- or large and in charge – hell, go-girl, just as happy for them….Empower. Close the magazines- turn off the TV + stop comparing! Vanity is the best way to suck people into their products and make millions- be smarter than that!

How do you not immediately love her?! That is the kind of attitude that changes the landscape. If we love ourselves as we are, other people’s opinions on the subject become irrelevant. Personally, I like long hair, frilly dresses, and lots of lip gloss (even if it only stays on for a total of five minutes…at best.) But that’s the whole point. It’s ok to dress and cut our hair however we like it best. This is a liberated country and we can wear a push-up bra or let them hang free, die our hair blonde, or purple, or go au-natural.

If more of us would take advantage of this freedom and truly adopt Alena’s attitude, the glossy mags would accommodate a wider range of women, our daughters would grow-up stronger and women overall would feel a whole lot better about themselves.

Thanks for your posts Alena. You are my Real Life Kick-Ass Woman!

My house is growing! It’s starting to look like a real home.

To honor this momentous event, and preserve something special under the skin, I wanted the special people who will be spending the most time here  to write their names in permanent marker on the wood of the house.

Soon it will be sealed with drywall and paint. Soon it will look like an ordinary kitchen. For me, I will always know that Josh, Alex, Lana, Jacob, Jordan, Rolando, and me, beat in the heart of the bones of this home.

It’s finally time! I get to share with you all my book cover for Kingston Court. For those of you who aren’t writers, an author’s book is like one of their children. This may sound silly, but getting to show you the cover feels a whole lot like sending out my boys’ first baby pics. I know I’m biased, but I think it’s beautiful and perfect.

What do you think???

Welcome to my new website. Graphic artist, Lisa Work, and I have put a lot of time and love into this beautiful site, along with the help of a whole lot of feedback from my generous Facebook friends. Thank you for all of your help and thanks for visiting!

hkammier.com is the first step in launching the release of my debut novel, Kingston Court. A modern twist between Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City, I wrote this book for my girlfriends and I can’t wait to share it with you ladies – and guys too, if you like gossip, mommy drama, dating, and strong women.

I will be blogging about once a week with all the latest. Just this month, my daughter-from-another-mother, Jessica Gillman, gathered up her girlfriends from the La Jolla, Jewish Community Center junior theater and acted out fun scenes from the book.  She is going to edit all their hard work and give me a copy of her directorial debut to post here on the blog. Here’s a pic of the girls who play junior versions of some of the main Kingston Court characters.

The cute boy in the front is my son Josh. He was asked to act out the part of Cameron Chase,  leading lady, Samantha Chase’s husband. From left to right, these are the characters the girls are playing: Jess, Beth, Natalie Delisse, Inna, Jamie, Samantha Chase, and a Kingston Court neighbor.

~Holly